No, not that kind of moment..an awkward moment with a chick. If you have made it one day through high school then you know what I mean when I talk about “Awkward moments.”
If you haven’t ever heard about them or even spent any time on urban dictionary then heres what I would call an awkward moment:
One day I was chilling with my friends, an equal mix of dudes and chicks, and after passing around our source of fun times, we started shooting the shit. The conversation goes to all kinds of weird places, as fun times are liable to, and we start talking about sex, more specifically if we prefer regular sex or oral. The answers aren’t that important* but what happened shortly after is the conversation fell into a lull. Nobody said anything. It was so quiet that you could have heard a rat taking a dump in the next room. This silence lasted for a few moments before everyone started to nervously chuckle, cough, and try to make conversation…awkwardly. Now that is a textbook awkward moment.
All an awkward moment is, is a moment where the sexual tension becomes too great for words to relieve so our brains just stop and hope that someone can relieve the tension. Usually its a kiss, or second base if this is a perfect world, but in our world few people actually have the balls to relieve the tension, and even less will intensify the tension to the point of bursting.
Most people see awkward moments as a negative. They effectively put huge brakes on a conversation course. I might see this cute ass girl sitting by herself, and I say to myself that she is looking mighty fine. While wrestling with my boner I decide to say something to her.
“You look bored” I try to say as casually as possible.
“What?” She replies, half in annoyance and half in actual confusion.
“Bored, that book you’re reading looks like it was written a thousand years ago” I laugh slightly as the tension begins to rise.
“I was actually kind of enjoying it, then this annoying guy came up and distracted me”
“Now you’re not bored, I’ve been a big help. Well actually you’re looking pretty cute now that you’re angry. Better than being bored.”
“You should see yourself now, you’re starting to get all red, I can help with that”
“Oh, can you?” She says this sarcastically of course but we hold eye contact and then my throat closes up. My mouth is dry and I can’t think of anything. We just hold eye contact. In fear make up some bullshit about how I have to get going because of some class and I flee.
Everything had been going so well, but I couldn’t escalate, I was lost in a moment of fear.
The interaction had so much potential, but I squandered it with my cowardice.
This is one of the biggest fears that I have ever had. We won’t know what to say, she’ll ignore us, and we’ll never get in her pants. It’s such a shame too, since this happens all the time. To be fair my interaction was a more extreme example, and most awkward moments are like that one time in the basement, a shared memory of shy embarrassment. Most times it’s not a big deal, and it doesn’t do much to harm you, it is merely annoying. Sadly the fear of this annoyance causes a bigger problem.
When you subconsciously fear what could happen, then what naturally happens is that your behavior subtly changes in such a way so that you never encounter awkward moments, or at least limit them heavily. This is truly a bad thing, because:
AWKWARDNESS IS SEX JUST WAITING TO HAPPEN!
I’d be a liar if I said that all awkward moments lead to immediate sex but what is true is that the chemical cocktail in your girls head is going to make her feel that way. She is made to feel like she could be getting laid any second and it causes her brain to cut a ton of her emotional safeguards she puts up so that guys don’t bother her.
In short: Its a super badass way to get girl to dig you
That means that in reality you should probably take all kinds of advantage of this information. Having been in your exact position before, I can honestly say that knowing that the sexual tension between two people can be a game changer and actually applying it are two different things. Since it relies on stimulating deep emotions it is not a precise mechanism so you will be afraid sometimes, but also incredibly happy.
Now we’re at the money shot, you didn’t come here for theory,you came here for ACTION!
Before I go into detailed explanation on how you can do just such a thing heres the basic idea:
In order to take advantage of sexually charged circumstances you must be the kind of dude that is sexual in nature and with all things being equal would probably bang the girl he chose.
So basically you’re trying to a more sexual guy, there are three avenues that you should take to get there: improving your internal sexual state, learning how and applying sexual escalation more frequently and automatically, and getting laid.
Since you’re on this website it’s safe to assume you are having problems being sexual. Don’t worry, it’s all practice. There is no genetic lottery that determines who will have the desire and who won’t. You just need to make the decision to become a sexual beast.
This sounds nerdy, and unrealistic, you just need to decide to become something which you’re not, you probably are going to call some sort of self-improvement trickery but here’s the truth. You are the sum total of many factors, one of the major ones being your actions. If you decide to actively change the way you think, and you take steps to apply this thought process then it will shape who you are in just the same way that fear does.
First off you need to improve how you feel about sex on the inside. There is much contention around one piece of advice I’m about to give you, but I’m going to give it anyway. Stop jerking off, or at least limit it to a one a week ritual. As people we try to live with an orgasm a day, but if we’re capable of instantly granting that pure pleasure at any moment in the way we desire this forms addict behavior and it releases your inner sexual tension so that you don’t have to work hard to get some girl to do it for you. You may not feel this to be true, but if you’re looking for an option to help you out its worth at least trying it out for a month.
When you’re building your inner sexual state its basically tempting your inner animal to the point where you can’t stand not to be getting busy. The other two basic ways of doing this is eating a higher protein diet and working out. If you have some money you could get some Brazil nuts to aid in testosterone production, but in general the closer you get your body to run at peak performance, the more you want to have sex and the less that fear will control you. Hanging out with more girls helps that too thanks to the way your brain is wired and pheromones.
Escalation is just everything that happens between meeting the girl and nutting in her. In principle most of the difficult escalation occurs in starting physical contact, and foreplay. You probably get so nervous at this point you chicken out, but it is only because you do not know how much fun this is. Escalation, the struggle, the chemical bouncing through your brain, the countless boners, and all those late nights. There are more resources on this site for helping you get into escalation but the rush you receive from risking the relationship with a girl by escalating feels pretty damn good.
This last avenue is probably not the first path you will take, but it is the most effective. As soon as you get laid you realize just how simple it is, and you truly understand just how nice it is, it will push you to do it again, and again, and again.You’ll understand soon.
Now when those awkward moments rear their ugly mugs you will smile with delight, since you understand that it is like a gift, wrapped just for you. And remember:
AWKWARDNESS IS SEX JUST WAITING TO HAPPEN!
Use it to your advantage
*blow jobs rock