As promised, I’m going to give you some simple techniques on how to keep a conversation going with a girl to help avoid falling into those awkward silences!
Lets get straight to it then shall we?!
When a girl says something don’t just be like “Oh cool, that’s interesting..” and then ask her another question.
Instead you want to say a statement about what she just said and it doesn’t even matter if you know nothing about what she’s on about. You can literally just say that you have no clue about the subject she’s talking about. You don’t want to be ‘that guy’ that just kept reeling off question after question. Then it just becomes like an interview.
things to keep the conversation going
I’ll give you a bad example:
ME: Hey, you’re pretty tanned, are you latino or something?
HB: Oh that’s because my grandparents are from Mexico
ME: So is your mum or dad mexican?
Here is a good example:
ME: Nice tan, it gives you a latino vibe (nice open statement leaves her to respond)
HB: Yeah my grandparents are from Mexico so I guess I get it from them
ME: I’ve always wanted to travel to Mexico, it seems like such a beautiful place. Do you get to go there often? (this time I chose to follow up the statement with a question, but you don’t always need to)
And this sort of thing can go on for hours if you want it to. You can ask your next question OR even better, let her come back with a response to that and have her ask you a question.
You don’t want to make your interaction with her seem like an interview. Girls wont like that and will treat you the same way she’d treat an alien trying to probe her anus.
The easy way to do this is to just think to yourself in your head
STATEMENTS, STATEMENTS, STATEMENTS
That way its not something that you’re going to get lost thinking about and trying to apply and you can actually pay attention to the conversation.This is key for actually understanding how to keep a conversation going with a girl
By making a statement before hand you add value to the conversation. So after you make the statement your question invites her to comment on it and usually question you back. And you just repeat this. It really does work. In any setting too, not just for picking up girls, but with friends, teachers and bosses included. People will feel like they had a really great conversation with you rather than an awkward encounter.
If you’d read my previous post about day game, which is Right Here,(temporarily down) (if you haven’t why the fuck not?) after reading this you might be thinking, “Hang on..how does he get from complementing a girl to doing all this?” . Well most of the time when you compliment a girl they will just say “Oh, thanks” or something, so you need to transition into a conversation quickly and smoothly.
A way I’ve found very effective is where you make an assumption about her, based on her appearance, accent or anything you can think of. I’ve come across the ‘official’ term for this, which is called assumption stacking. And I actually used one in my example you just read.
So basically, for my example, instead of asking a question like “Where are you from?”
Make an assumption on her appearance and guess instead.
After your compliment don’t give her time to respond, but don’t jump down her throat with your words, be casual.
She was tanned so it was safe to assume she was Spanish, Mexican or so on. So I would usually say “You give off a latino vibe” or “You look like you’ve got some latino in you” and move on from there.
You see here, if you guess right she’ll be like “OMFG I WANT YOU NOW NOW” (sort of) but if you guess wrong, she’ll be like “No…BUT WHAT MADE YOU THINK THAT? TELL ME!” . Its natural for anyone to be curious as to how they come across to people (that’s you in this case) and why they come across that way.
How to keep a conversation going with a girl
Then after this you can run the whole ‘statement, question, statement, question’ on her.
I cannot emphasize enough on how important being casual about it is, not even when I put it like KEEP CASUAL!! , its still not enough.
Questions to ask to keep a conversation going