There’s a lot of confusion out there on what being an ‘Alpha male’, a man, really is. So what does it mean to be a man today? A lot of people say it’s about being in charge of your situation at all times. I think it’s much more than that. Here is what I believe a real man is.
A real man is confident – He does what he wants, when he wants and with who he wants to do it. He doesn’t doubt what he says, what he wears or what he does. He is confident that what he is doing is right and no one can convince him otherwise. (Obviously not in extreme cases like people who want to murder someone…don’t be stupid)
A real man faces his fears- It’s perfectly acceptable for a man to have fears. It is not acceptable for those fears to control him. A man takes control of his fears and fights through them no matter what the task ahead. He pushes himself out of his comfort zone and into the unknown.
A real man does not seek reaction- He does things because he wants to do them, not to try and get approval of others. He tells a joke because he thinks it’s funny. He tells a story because he thinks its interesting. Not because he thinks other people will like him for it.
A real man keeps a cool head- He does not react when others try to put him down. He simply brushes it off as petty remarks and jealousy.
A real man embraces the hard times- He knows that life isn’t easy and the good times won’t come to him easy. But he never forgets that the reason it hurts is because he had something good to begin with.
A real man can laugh at himself- He knows how to take jokes on the chin at times but will not always as it can show submissive behavior to others. If he does this too often, it can insult his manhood and lower his value.
A real man gives value to others- He doesn’t need to put others down in order to big himself up. He will give value to others by laughing at their jokes, paying attention to their stories and treating them with respect.
A real man does not apologize for his desires- He goes after what he wants. Be that money, fame, fortune. It doesn’t matter. When a man sees what he wants, he goes after it with no shame, no regret.
A real man cares what people think- He doesn’t care about everyone’s opinions, but he listens to them and respects them. He cares about the opinions of those close to him and takes them into consideration.
A real man doesn’t go against his values- He holds his ground on matters important to him and isn’t easily swayed to go against his values if at all. His values should never be at the loss of those around him, yet he should put his values ahead of pleasing others.
These points here are what I believe helps make a real man. While I haven’t told you how to achieve these points. That is often better when learning to become an alpha male as learning to do them yourself will make you much more of a real man rather than a copy of how someone else goes about being a man.